As the clock strikes midnight and the calendar turns its page to a new year, countless individuals embark on a journey fueled by optimism and determination – the pursuit of New Year’s Resolutions.
However, despite our best intentions, we often don’t keep these promises we make to ourselves. Whether it’s adopting healthier habits or pursuing a new career path research suggests that only 9% of people who set New Years Resolutions end up completing them.
Why is that and how can we set and achieve meaningful goals in 2024?
“It’s actually safer to not set goals” Jaemin said.
“While this question, ‘what do you want’ sounds like the simplest, easiest question that exists, it is actually the most difficult, dangerous and problematic question that exists.”
Jaemin is an award-winning life coach and is the founder of The Insecurity Project, specialising in helping entrepreneurs, leaders, and business owners eradicate insecurity. He is widely recognized as one of Australia’s best personal development coaches and a leading voice globally on the subject of personal insecurity.
“Setting and achieving goals, that highlights all the things that could go wrong. It touches on insecurity, rejection, heart and disappointment”.
“I think the only way anyone ever sets and achieves meaningful goals is they grow up… they consider that to be an adult is to set the coordinates for your own life.” Jaemin Frazer,
In order to set and achieve meaningful goals, Jaemin says we must first solve the problem of our own insecurity, something he believes is a solvable problem.
Jaemin also recommended an exercise he uses personally and with clients on a regular basis called the ‘Silly Ideas Only Exercise’.
“So, the way that I play this game is a blank page, nice pen and the rules of the game are no accountability, no responsibility, ‘silly ideas only’. So you can’t get it wrong.
So, you say, ‘if you could have anything, what anything would you want?’ and then you write something down.
Jaemin explains that the brilliant thing about the ‘Silly Ideas Only’ experience, is that you give yourself permission to play, and shared that “all the most meaningful, joyful experiences in my life over the last 10 years have everyone and have started out as silly ideas.”
For more resources and advice on how to overcome insecurity and start your day with purpose, check out Jaemin’s website and recent books.
Listen to the full episode by checking out the 52Q podcast below.